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09 januari 2004
The Question Is WHY?
Teddy music: United Live - To The Ends Of The Earth
I was watching Good Charlotte's music video for "Hold On". I mean, I saw that vid sometime ago. And somehow, it’s kinda stuck in my mind since then.
Good Charlotte – Hold On (Lyrics)
This world
This world is cold
But you don't
You don't have to go
You're feeling sad, you're feeling lonely, and no one seems to care
You're mother's gone and your father hits you
This pain you cannot bear
But we all bleed the same way as you do
And we all have the same things to go through
Hold on if you feel like letting go
Hold on it gets better than you know
Your days
You say they're way too long
And your nights
You can't sleep at all
Hold on
And you're not sure what you're waiting for, but you don't want to no more
And you're not sure what you're looking for, but you don't want to no more
But we all bleed the same way as you do
And we all have the same things to go through
Hold on if you feel like letting go
Hold on it gets better than you know
Don't stop looking, you're one step closer
Don't stop searching, it's not over
Hold on
(music)
What are you looking for?
What are you waiting for?
Do you know what you're doing to me?
Go ahead...What are you waiting for?
Hold on if you feel like letting go
Hold on it gets better than you know
Don't stop looking, you're one step closer
Don't stop searching, it's not over
Hold on if you feel like letting go
Hold on it gets better than you know
Hold on
If you've seen the video (you can always go to mtv.com to check it out or download it from somewhere...hehe), you'll see that they asked actual people who've had encounters with suicide, either themselves personally or through family/friends. It makes me want to cry every time I see it. Especially near the end when they speak about how suicide isn't always the answer and how there's more beyond it.
Before you continue reading, I ask you to bear in mind that this is from my own viewpoint which includes personal and religious thoughts. To each his own, I say.
Makes you wonder really, how can people so willingly take their own lives?
Teddy music: Good Charlotte - Hold On
From a Christian point of view, taking one's own life is akin to murder - you destroy something before its due time. In fact, so many suicide-survivors say that they are grateful they DIDN'T commit suicide in the end. They realised that it was and is a pointless thing to do. Like I once heard/read somewhere, "Suicide is only a long-term solution to a short-term problem."
In my opinion, people who commit suicide are selfish. Why so? That's because they are only thinking of themselves. Did they think about how their family and friends would feel without their presence? I know that it's hard to imagine. Believe me, I've had problems with depression and self-apathy myself. Of course, none so serious that I went towards the suicidal walk but I have contemplated what life would be like without me. Only the fact that I believe suicide is a sin in Christianity is holding me back from walking down that one-way path.
Sometimes when I read about people as young as 12 years old taking their own life, it saddens me. My lecturer in Cross Cultural Studies once gave out newspaper clippings about suicides that happened in Malaysian among YOUNG people. I really believe that it is a plan of the Devil to glorify suicide for all the wrong reasons. Too many movies, dramas and music sing about suicide as the only way out of life’s problems. Like my pastor has said many times, “Only dead people have no problems.” God placed problems in everyone’s life to strengthen them, not kill them off. I believe in the saying of “that which does not kill you, will only make you stronger.” I look back over my 19 years of life and view the problems which I thought were insurmountable then. Admittedly, my life hasn’t been as hard as it has been for others. I can say that I’ve been blessed with many good things that many can only hope for. Even then, with such a “perfect” life, I bleed just like everyone else. It felt like I was never going to be able to overcome the problems I faced. But, deep down in my heart (and it grows stronger everyday), I know that someday, I will overcome that mountain and be victorious. If only it were possible to plant this belief into every hopeless mind and heart stumbling around in the darkness of life.
I remember while doing some preliminary research about suicide for an assignment, I read all about the signs of depression which later lead to suicidal tendencies. These signs are so typical in a lot of people that it becomes something of the norm, worse still is when a seemingly happy person commits suicide. In fact, we’re all so caught up in today’s living that most of us (including myself) hardly have time enough to see what’s happening to others.
Yes, it IS selfish to commit suicide. But, at the bottom of it all, it's just a desperate plea for help. These people have no idea of how to reach out to others anymore. Sometimes, it can feel like the world is against you or out to get you. I’m sure most have heard of the saying, “When you feel the world has turned its back on you, it’s probably you who turned your back on the world.” Personally, when I’m down in the depths of depression, hearing that phrase sounds like poppycock because my mind keeps telling me otherwise. The mind can be a very dangerous thing, indeed. Depressed people need people to approach them and to just listen. It’s difficult to reach out when you’re caught in the throes of depression. How hard can it be for others to just listen and hold out a helping hand? That’s all these people really need. A shoulder to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to them, a hand to hold them up when they’re down.
One of my wishes for the world is that suicide would completely disappear. My heart breaks with every suicide case I read. Doesn't your heart break too?
I remember reading the email story about a boy who unknowingly prevented another boy he didn’t know too well from committing suicide. How often have we encountered a situation like that, where just a small act of kindness and love prevented a heartbreaking incident to occur?
Please, take a moment of silence to remember those who’ve lost loved ones to the deadly clutches of suicide and remember that someday, you can make a difference in someone’s life.
Teddied by redphayze at 09 januari 2004 16:25
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